is it secret?
I've heard a lot of secrets lately. I've been told secrets about people living in secret: mostly affairs.
All of the people say the same thing when/if the secret is uncovered: it was the best thing that happened and though it's been utterly devastating, it feels like a weight has been lifted. It wasn't the affair that was killing them, it was the secret of it.
Secrets will kill us. The church has a good history of forcing people to live in secret, of laying a heavy burden on people in their effort to protect their secrets. Jesus said he came to set people free and that his burden was easy and light - there are no more secrets, because there is no more fear of what will happen at the hands of the church if the secret is let into the open.