whether vs how

Whether or not it happened is very different than how it happened. 
Whether or not it's true is very different than how it's true. 
Whether or not you're right is very different than how you're right. 
Whether or not you are loved is very different than how you are loved. 
Whether or not you show love is very different than how you show love. 

It seems like we sometimes spend lots of time on whether or not something happened rather than how it happened, or is happening... If we have an explanation for how, that whole whether thing kinda takes care of itself.