A martyr is someone who refuses to acknowledge something that an external force demands and is, therefore, punished for it.
If you're going to give in to the demands of any external force, you can't blame the external force. You can only blame yourself. In the modern era, a martyr has become synonymous with someone who would actually rather blame someone else for their predicament. We call this playing the martyr.
They blame the external force for making them do something.
There are constant external forces.
You're choosing to listen to some right now and disregard others.
What are the external forces demanding from you?
Why do they want that?
Do you want that?