Once a pregnancy appears, there's no use telling someone they shouldn't have had sex. Or berating them for having sex. We generally move on. We make things better, no matter what got us to this point.
In that case, it's more obvious. In others, I wish it was.
We're here. Maybe we're here because of an affair, because of alcoholism, because of bad religion.
But, why do we keep talking about what got you or me here?
We move on. We make things better, no matter what got us to this point.